Most people know that actress Garcelle Beauvais is the proud mom of 5-year-old twin boys that she had with her cheating ex-husband Mike Nilon, but what many don’t know is that she also has a 21-year-old son, Oliver, from her first marriage. She recently caught up with the Haitian-American magazine, ‘Kreyolicious’ for a sit-down interview revolving around her two marriages and she revealed that just because she’s stepped outside of her race once or twice, doesn’t mean that she’s closed off to dating black men completely.
She also admitted that she never saw her mom in a relationship with a man because she was always working so that affects how she wants to raise her kids, and shares a bit of love and marriage advice for the ladies:
On Dating Outside of Her Race
I’ve always been open to dating black men. Oliver’s dad is black. I’m not opposed to it. It’s that the right people have to approach me. I love who loves me; I love who comes to me. I’m accessible to everybody. I’m receptive to everybody. I can’t just go out and look for only one type of man. Life is tough enough. I love who loves me; who approaches me.
On Her Relationship With her oldest son Oliver
We have a great relationship. He’s a young man who’s trying to find his way. He tells me everything, to a fault. [Laughs]
On Her Mother Being Single Her Whole Life & How That Effected Her
I definitely learned strength from her. Being a strong Haitian woman. Having integrity. My mom was working—she was trying to take care of us. And I just feel like I didn’t see a working relationship between a man and a woman. So that’s what I aspire to do with my kids.[…]I loved my mom. We got along great. I’m saying in terms, of seeing her as a role model with a man in a healthy relationship.[…]I think everything a parent does affects us. It’s the way we do things. We’re all on our journey. I try to figure it all out. Doing a lot of self-work. Figuring out myself so that I can have a wonderful, healthy relationship with a man. That’s what I’m saying.
Advice For The Ladies on Love, Relationships, & Marriage
First of all, I would say, be true to you. I don’t think you should have to give up part of you just to be with somebody else. I think it’s important if you can start with self-love. Loving yourself, you will not allow other people to hurt you unnecessarily. Love yourself. Have boundaries for yourself [so] that you won’t let anybody hurt you. I think that it’s also finding a good person, who has the same morals, the same goals with you. Relationships are tough no matter what. If you have somebody who has a lot in common with you, that’s half the battle. Obviously, I don’t know. I have two divorces. I’m not an expert. I think self-love is where you can start off with.
Although her two marriages didn’t work out, she was blessed with some adorable boys.
Check out the full interview over at Kreyolicious!