Phrases like, I love your hair, I love your smile, you look cute, or you are beautiful, are made by authentic, confident women. These women are in their respective lanes. They do not have time to compete with any other woman. They thrive and not just survive. They may not be exactly where they want to be, but they are not what they used to be. They are growing, accomplishing goals, and setting more goals.
There is a phrase I heard a long time ago that says, “You see the glory but you don’t know the story.” We see women we admire and we secretly wish we had something they have. We may ask ourselves how did they get that type of man, handbag, house, job, car, connection, or hairstyle. Maybe we wonder how they get to take all of these fabulous excursions. You may even think, how did they get the perfect family?
You may wonder some of these things and you may never admit it. You may think this woman is really successful. But what does success really look like? You may never know about the nights she didn’t sleep, or even the nights she cried herself to sleep.
Most people will never hear of the times she received rejection, the arguments where he left her, or the moments her kids did not come home. A lot of time her bills were not paid, she encountered moments of low self-esteem, and feelings that no one loves her.
With success comes sacrifice. There is a scripture that says “to whom much is given, much is required.” Many of us want the success, but are not willing to put in the work. We get mad at other women for having the motivation and determination to push past the many no’s, disappointments, etc. when we too can do the same.
So, the next time you see a woman who appears to be doing her thing, please encourage her. Life can throw some serious blows. Some can start off strong and then get weak along the way. Everyone may be able to see her worth but her. Please be your sister’s keeper!