selfcare

Lately, I’ve felt like my world has been turned upside down. I’ll be the first to admit that these first six months of 2018 have not been the most favorable. I’d even go so far to say they’ve been an ode in the infamous “If it ain’t one thing, it’s another,” story. Maybe it’s the extra long winter we’ve had or the couple of full moons in different zodiacs—either way, it’s been bananas for me in every aspect of my life.

Still, I’m optimistic about finishing this year with a bang. I’m determined to count these past six months as the sandpaper phase and now I’m moving into my more polished & refined stage. Although, I’m having several awakenings in a lot of areas—one of the areas I’ve vowed to do better in is: self-care.

By nature, I’m a work-acholic. I’m one of those people who feels no matter the time of day, whether it’s fifteen minutes or thirty minutes of down time—I can be doing something productive to better myself. So much so, I forget that it’s okay to have some down time. My mother or friends have to frequently remind me, it is perfectly normal to have rejuvenation periods during the week and/or month to take care of Shadress.

And not feel guilty about it!

As crazy as it seems, I am guilty of self-punishment when I am not working. My mind is always racing and thinking of new ideas and ways to reach those goals faster. Though I’m moving closer to knocking a few of them out, I’m not close enough. And this is what I tell myself when I’ve taken a few hours to max out, read or catch up on my shows.

Do you do this too?

Sometimes, when we are so focused on checking off our goals, we forget to have mini-celebratory moments (or at least I do) to pat ourselves on the backs. Well this month, I’ve made a small pledge to myself to have more stop and smell the roses moments. I’m going to spend more time with friends and family and just enjoy the small progress I have already made—while keeping my eye on the ball.

If you’re in the same boat as me, I have about 9 activities this month I will be doing monthly to ensure I am maintaining the right amount of work-life balance.

  1. Lunch Date w/a friend

  2. 24 hours no social media

  3. 1 Day spent outdoors

  4. 1 Night out w/friends

  5. 1 Date Night (even w/ just yourself)

  6. 1 Breakfast meetup w/friends

  7. 1 Movie Night

  8. 1 Day serving others

  9. 1 Day completely to yourself

Will you join me? I hope so! Let me know how your month went and how many self-care days you were able to give yourself at the end of month in the comments below. Happy self-rehabbing!

 

Protecting Your Positive Energy

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Editor-in-Chief @DELUX, author, foodie, and a culture junkie who just happens to be the blackest person you will ever meet.
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